You are a self-professed chingona. Kicking butt, taking no prisoners. You have reached the pinnacle of your field; you have a great job; your familia finally got around to accept you as you are, even your Tia Licha who stopped sending you subscriptions to Vanidades! You finally found the love of your life, who thankfully has less baggage than you. You can pull off a spiky hair cut and a bow tie without looking like you’re 10 years old. But there is something missing…A vague emptiness; a sense of incompleteness; a discomfort in your own skin. Your therapist called it “ennui” (you had to look up it up in the dictionary, because, who uses that word in normal conversation?) You bought self-help books written by every ‘Don’ out there, watched videos (on you tube, because you are a cheap chingona), attended workshops, scoured websites, talked to gurus, paid “life” coaches espousing the “meaning of life” ; “12 steps to good relationships”, “5 ways to find love” and other chingaderas that focus on the one thing that people since time immemorial have been searching for…happiness. What if happiness is not the goal but only a reflection from the prism of wholeness? What if being a chingona is accepting all the aspects that makes this life a vida de cuarditos? What is a spiritual chingona?
A Spiritual Chingona is an Adelita with Attitude: She is a mindful gangsta; a guerrera luminosa. She knows that her actions are always for the highest good and for the true manifestation of her purpose in her life. She creates sacred space in both the physical and spiritual planes. She explores who her spiritual/cultural/intellectual ancestors are and call on them for insights/lessons. The rituals she creates connects her to the madre tierra and the stars. She knows that her only true possessions are her actions. She makes sure she owns them.
A Spiritual Chingona is fond of fatalism: She appreciates the meaning of “amor fati”. Westerners love to talk about “Mexican fatalism” without understanding what it means; it’s about acceptance of things that aren’t in your control. It’s about having the power to balance the past and the future in the present. Spiritual chingonas don’t resign to fate, they realign their fate.
A Spiritual Chingona loves her panza and allows her panza to love her back: The spiritual Chingona has a dialogue with her body. She listens and observes. She remembers that the body remembers. She listens to what her body is telling her. She wears something that is empowering; a reboso, a tie, a pair of stilettos, a tailored shirt. She honors the panza that she has worked hard to get by being mindful of the food and drinks she puts in her body. La Guerrera Luminosa Walks, Swims, Breathes, Laughs, Forgives, Dances, Loves con ganas.
A Spiritual Chingona never forgets what it’s like to be a Niña. She plays with children now and again. She knows that children can be great teachers; she listens to what they have to say. Spiritual Chingonas tend and nurture their relationships. They are one of the few things in life that are truly portable. She also honors her pain by addressing it, by seeking help from healers in all of their forms. She maps her inner landscape, accepting that it may not be totally known. She seeks forgiveness from others and herself. A Spiritual Chingona explores how sadness and anxiety can be gifts. She knows that there is no day but today.